How many times have we given up on our dreams because of our own self sabotaging beliefs that we harbor within ourselves? Oh I don’t have the money for it, or I don’t have the time! I don’t know how to start? I have my job and it’s doing fine..etc. and all these excuses we come up with to forget our dreams.
When we were young we had many dreams and many aspirations. We wanted to make them all come true. As time passed we found ourselves stuck in the same place we have created for ourselves, in that safe spot. We have carried on with our uninspiring daily life and forgot about our dreams. Is this what we have really wanted for ourselves? Truly?
I wanted to become an actress, then a painter and a poet. I have abandoned all three. I never pursued any of them seriously enough. I just skimmed the surface. Do I regret not fulfilling any of them? YES. What stopped me? My own limiting beliefs. The good news is .. It is never too late to change all that.
We can create new dreams or restart old ones ..So what are we waiting for?
But first let’s identify our self sabotaging wrong beliefs we have about fulfilling our dreams.
What are they?
- It is too difficult.
How difficult? Sometimes we create our own failures before we even start. What do I need to do to fulfill my dream? Money, talent, time, people to help me, I don’t know how or where to start? And quickly we abandon the dream. If we feel that our dream is difficult let’s ask ourselves; what baby steps can I take to get me closer to my dreams?
-If you want to become a writer, write every day two pages.
-If you want to become a painter start by taking lessons and if money is a problem you can learn on the internet.
-If you want to climb a mountain, start hiking on weekends.
-If you want to start your own business, start networking with people in that field.
But why do dreams seem so difficult and seem out of reach?
Because of the next belief.
- I have to become successful quickly.
How quickly? Five years … ten years? If that feels like it is too long ask yourself: Would I would rather get there late or not at all? Often we lack the discipline and perseverance to work hard and consistently because we are looking for quick gratifications and when that doesn’t happen we give up on our dreams.
- Either I become famous or I’m a failure.
Why do we need to be famous to achieve our dream? Why do we need to compare ourselves to others? Each one of us has their own journey in this world. We don’t need to compete. If we were able to achieve a part of our dream that doesn’t mean we failed. We only fail if we never try. Maybe I will never become a famous actress or painter but does that mean any achievements I have done towards those dreams are just failures?
- It’s too late for me.
Do you feel that your time has passed? I felt that on so many occasions but people kept proving me wrong. So many people have achieved their dreams when they were older. There is no time limit on realizing one’s dream. If you have a dream make it happen at any age.
- It’s too risky. I might fail.
What if you don’t make it? Despite all your efforts, what if your dream remains unfulfilled? What if you fail? What if you lose money and lose your job? You are right! but ask yourself are you happy were you are now? If one day you look back on your life will you regret not following your dreams?
Don’t you think that’s a risk worth taking?
Question Your Limiting Beliefs
I have been held back by every single one of these limiting beliefs, but I didn’t let them stop me from fulfilling one of my dreams and that is to become a holistic healer and a life coach. To be able to help others.
If you have a dream, you have a duty and responsibility to make it come true—not only to yourself but also to those who love you.
Examine your thoughts and question your beliefs. Your dreams are closer than you think.
What small steps will you take today to make your dreams come true?
20 years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
– Mark Twain
Courtesy of Peter Banjerea